More than enough
A response to (some of) the assumptions we've received since Mitch became the first openly bisexual AFL player in history
“There’s no proof he’s actually bi lol”
”I’m assuming she’s aware when you’re hooking up with guys”
”He’s bi but he’s only been in relationships with women? Hmmmm”
”Now it’s time for you to do the brave thing and admit to everyone that you’re actually gay”
Never reading the comments is self-preservation.
Before all of this happened, my silly little TikToks maxed out at 200 views. On the day the news broke, I can almost pin-point the exact moment where I went from being another human on a social media app, to somebody’s cultural event to critique.
“Girl this could never be me”
How fortunate - for everyone - that it’s not you.
We never expected people to understand the dynamics of our intimate relationship, we still don’t. The bisexuality part is a complication in the narrative.
“How is your partner ok with you being attracted to other people?”
Pretty simple when she’s attracted to other people too. When she can enjoy that attraction with no need to act on every impulse. Or every urge, the term trolls seem to prefer.
It can be a challenge to talk and write about this when there are things about us I want to keep for us. I know we don’t owe anyone our story, but I also do want to tell parts of it. Because before we met I didn’t know you were allowed to live like this.
We are in a committed relationship. We are more than enough for each other. More than enough for now. Maybe - more than enough forever. But also maybe not. That’s the bit I didn’t know you were allowed to say out loud.
The day we admitted to each other that we wanted to remain open to the experiences life could bring us over the next 60 or 70 years brought us closer together than I knew was possible.
The trust and connection that comes with complete and utter honesty is like nothing else.
It’s not a dynamic I’ve read much about, and it’s not something we feel the need to explore any time soon. We don’t do anything without each other. But knowing one day we could, has brought a freedom to our connection that feels transcendental.
